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Writer's pictureSidra Zameer

|Matrimonial Websites|Pakistani Parents|Trends&Values|

Now-a-days Matrimonial Websites are doing a Huge business in some countries. Asian Communities are also taking help and interest in these Matrimonial Websites.


After the kids’ education, parents around the world would wish their children to settle down as soon as possible. Matrimonial Websites are not that common and trusted among Asian communities in Pakistan. In a Culture, where newly-wed usually start their lives in a joint-family system. Groom and bride are the least responsible in arranging their big day but have to bear a huge pressure in spouse-selection. In Pakistan, WEDDING is a huge flourishing industry. Wedding with full pomp and show, rich with traditional values and embellished with glamour. This kind of wedding fiesta earns a deep gratification to the family members of the couple. And, from getting married, to further getting their own kids, is very much influenced by the couple’s parents’ guidance and suggestion.


What Quran Says About Getting MARRIED

Islam recognizes the value of sex and companionship. It advocates marriage as the foundation for families and channeling the fulfillment of a base need. Marriage is highly valued and regarded as being half of one’s faith. According to a saying of Muhammad.


Probably these Matrimonial Match Websites will become a blessing in disguise one day.

I have some experience in Matrimonial Match. My C.S.R training from Chamber wanted me to evident some social-responsibility. So we tied a few knots between some eligible bachelors. That gave me hands on experience as well as some success-stories. It’s a very time-taking job and need full devotion. I regret, as i had my hands already full with my previous work. I had to leave soon afterwards.


Marriages ought not to happen without love even if it’s arranged..

Its a cruel reality that usually we don’t let our children have any opinion to say what’s their choice? Which could lead to a bitter, meaningless life in most of the cases. And it’s also observed that mostly grown-ups in Pakistan are devoid of the fact and significance of selecting the right life-partner.

Still in most of the cases they are either forced or emotionally blackmailed to get married at a very tender age. Or probably the major hindrance is when you have to buy a gift its not difficult. But, if you have a thought to win everyone’s approval on it, seems an impossible task.


Cousin marriage have become out of trend and Matrimonial Websites are becoming a useful source.

Cousin-marriages are out of practice in many communities for good or bad. And parents are in chaos to tie up relations with an absolute strange and anonymous families. Right age male individuals are usually apprehensive to find someone who could tick all the family check list and would remain in his choice as well. He (Groom) is an eligible heir of his family’s name and the property so, betraying his family’s choice could result drastically. On the other hand, Right age females have become more aware, daring, intelligent and groomed then ever. And could not accept anything and everything for only getting married. As they are financially strong and have their own status made up for their future husband



INDIAN MARRIAGES by Sima..

A few days back while jogging on treadmill, I started watching ‘INDIAN MARRIAGES’ in an expectation of a movie or some INDIAN season to kill some time while in gym. It wasn’t any above mentioned category but, was a very interesting documentary by the Matchmaker Sima Taparia. I found it quite informative and in reference to my MM experience. It nailed all the aspects of human behaviors and moods that, I also faced during my brief MM encounter.

I like the way she guides her clients in the United States and India in their intend to have arranged marriages. Offering an inside look at the custom in today’s world.


Indeed, Making the Right Match is a very difficult task.

Indian Matchmaker is an amazing documentary. It holds up a true picture of Indian’s families that how Asian Parents react on proposals. How dominant and annoying some times they are and their demands. May be as their kid’s getting married is one of the important chapter in their lives. And I didnt find it much different to what Pakistani families think or do when in same shoes. Further, I realized that our grown-ups whether he or she are mostly confused, dubious, apprehensive and under deep pressure from their parents.


We are Living in a Global Village

Today the time has changed, globalization has shrunk the world. How amazing it feels that we are almost following the same traditions and values throughout the world. Modern age generation, where females have become more liberal independent and strong and, men have become more groomed, stable and matured. And they know it’s next to impossible for them to find a hundred percent yes match for their own and have yes from everyone in the family as well. So, getting married could be their parents’ wish but they are the least bothered about it. Specially those living in abroad could avoid Aunty culture to some extent and live on more free years from the pressure than those living in Pakistan.


If you are worried and looking for a proposal or the right match. Recommend you to contact ‘Door Of Awareness‘ an organization working for free. Helping Shia and Sunni Communities in finding the right match.

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